What makes relationships work?


In our busy world our relationships suffer more than ever. Rick Warren sheds some light on relationships...
"Busyness is a great enemy of relationships. Relationships, not achievements or the acquisition of things, are what matters most in life. So why do we allow our relationships to get the short end of the stick? When our schedules become overloaded, we start skimming relationally, cutting back on giving the time, energy, and attention that loving relationships require. What's most important to God is displaced by what's urgent. When life on earth is ending, people don't surround themselves with objects. What we want around us is people - people we love and have relationships with. In our final moments we all realize that relationships are what life is all about. Don't wait until you're on your deathbed to figure out that nothing matters more. In heaven God won't say, 'Tell me about your career, your bank account, and your hobbies.' Instead he will review how you treated other people, particularly those in need.
The importance of things can be measured by how much time we are willing to invest in them. The more time you give to something, the more you reveal it's importance and value to you. If you want to know a person's priorities, just look at how they use their time.
Time is your most precious gift because you only have a set amount of it. You can make more money, but you can't make more time. When you give someone your time you are giving them a portion of your life that you will never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E. The most desired gift is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It is focused attention. Many have said to me, 'I don't understand my wife and kids. I provide everything they need. What more could they want?' They want you! Your eyes, your ears, your time, your attention, your presence, your focus-your time. Nothing can take the place of that.
Who do you need to st art spending more time with? The best use of life is love. The best expression of love is time. The best time to love is now."